The simplest form of edging is the basic stop/start model.
So you are aware there is a start point with no arousal and an end point ponr . In this form of stop/start you make yourself aware that there is the option to stop before ponr relx and restart .
So it doesn't have to go from begining to end in an uninterrupted fashion. Having not only the mind but the body learn this is of valur and the first step . It also means you can focus on a simple goal without distraction.
This is a very important step to take. Just working on recognizing the scale of excitement is key to getting edging down. Guys want to rush through it, but it needs some time. I did this specifically for months.
When I started out I did t this way:
1) Slowly self pleasure, try to feel all sensations fully. (You could use lubricant to heighten sensitivity, but I think that should wait.)
2) As one strokes oneself, simply notice the level of arousal rising on the 10 point scale.
3) Be aware of changes in the body: Heart rate, muscle tension, breathing, tight , etc.?
4) When 9.9 is reached, this is the point of no return (PONR), stop all motion.
5) Relax, take deep breaths, and focus your attention on all parts of your body, but mostly your genital area.
Then I went through it by the numbers, meaning I would excite myself to a specific level and then stop. Progressively upping the ante at each step, getting closer and closer to the top.
1) Self pleasure slowly, focusing on the sensations fully.
2) When the arousal level reaches 6, stop all motion, relax.
3) When the excitement drops to 3, start self-pleasuring again.
4) When the arousal reaches 7 on the scale, stop, relax, breathe, and enjoy.
5) When the excitement drops to 3 again, begin again.
6) When you reach 8, stop, relax, breathe, and enjoy.
7) When the excitement drops to 4, begin again.
8) When the arousal reaches 9, stop, relax, breathe, and enjoy.
9) When the excitement drops to 5, begin again.
Repeat this cycle over and over, pausing at your chosen point on the scale (3, 4, 5, etc.) and seeing how close you can get to that 9.9 edge without cuming.